Tonight I decided to grill a hamburger for dinner. And, yes I know how to cook 🙂 . While eating, I glimpsed a comedy sitcom on television. One of the elements in the story line or plot in the sitcom was a child asking his mother about death… and, where do people go when they die. In the story, the child’s mother didn’t exactly know how to communicate with her son on a topic like death, which touches on personal beliefs, spiritual or religious beliefs, or lack of. So she decided not to tell him anything, as she wanted him to create his own truths in life, and not limit his understanding.
By not answering her son, all his mother did was cause him more confusion. And, because his mother didn’t answer him… he just asked someone else. But, the person her son asked didn’t feel like talking to him either, so she told him something (a lie) just to get him to go away, as she was busy doing whatever. It’s so crazy how perpetuated lies can ruin relationships, eliminate trust, etc.
The truth is sometimes hard to tell in the moment, but is always better in the long run.
How many times have we told people false truths, or a truth without placing it in context, or simply blatant lies, just to manipulate others? How many times have we seen police report lies to protect themselves and cover their unjust actions? How many times have people stood in front of a judge and actually told the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth?
I understand that no one is perfect, and a lot of people have trouble communicating and listening, but as I watched the sitcom on television I was reminded of 2 important life lessons.
- Without wisdom, even people with good well-meaning intentions can help cause confusion. – I know I often think… well, I’m not going to tell them the whole truth, as they aren’t even able to comprehend or understand what I’m trying to say. But, oftentimes by not being honest and telling someone the whole truth, in context, you may be causing/creating more confusion.
- It takes courage to discuss difficult topics with confidence – A subject like death is something no one really wants to talk about, except for funeral homes (as they are making that money). But, any topic is easy to discuss if you are secure in your knowledge of it. So, the more your know… the easier it is to talk about anything.
Another thing which was interesting, was that this past weekend I listened to a sermon on Death and Life. Pastor Ellis spoke about the purpose of a seed. Every seed has to die in order for it to bring forth life, or for it to grow into its purpose and create more seeds.
I feel in a sense what we say, or the words in which we speak are likened to seeds. The Bible says in Proverbs 18:21 – Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.
What type of fruit are you planting in your life and into those you love? Are you speaking forth words that put down people, or words that build up others? I love this quote by one of my favorite comedians…
“Our culture has accepted two huge lies. The first is that if you disagree with someone’s lifestyle, you must fear or hate them. The second is that to love someone means you agree with everything they believe, say or do. Both are nonsense. You don’t have to compromise convictions to be compassionate.”Dave Chappelle