One thing I see in a lot of people, including me… is the desire to have something special. Everyone wants something special. Just a few days ago was Black Friday, which is supposedly the day out of the year where people spend the most money. People opened up their wallets to purchase gifts and spent time wandering through crowded malls just to find the right sale (or something special).
So, it’s obvious that most people are willing to purchase something special… however, do most people have the willingness to create/commit to something special.
How many people are willing to sacrifice their time, energy, and resources in a hope to create a special relationship with someone? Better yet, how many people already in relationships are willing to stop dating around and really put their heart into their relationship, in an effort to make a serious commitment?
Being in a relationship is a sacrifice, and it is not all black and white like some may suppose. There are a lot of grey areas… oftentimes with no perfect solutions.
Sometimes I feel many young people are so out of touch with reality when it comes to relationships. They want so much, but aren’t willing to make the sacrifices in order to get it. They want the best life, and they want someone to give it to them. Wisdom tells me that if I want the best relationship, or the best life, I need to be willing to create it.
A few days ago I read a Facebook post by one of my friends. In about two paragraphs she listed all of her quality attributes about herself that people see when they look at her externally. When most people see her, they probably see a pretty face with an attractive body, an intelligent educated black woman with multiple degrees, a well-dressed professional, etc… But at the end of her post she also stated what many people don’t see behind her smile. Which at times could be a woman with a broken heart, someone who needs encouragement, and someone who desires to be truly loved.
Whether people say it openly or not, we all have an inner desire to be loved. And, not just a cordial smile, pat on the back type of love. We want to be loved intimately. The type of love that touches the innermost parts of your body and soul. The type of love that is supporting and encouraging. The type of love which commits to you despite your mistakes or imperfections. The type of love that isn’t commonly seen or received, but when felt… you know that it’s something special.
Being in my late 30’s I’m beginning to see a lot of things I thought I would never see. I see more beautiful women around my age who are comfortable being single. I feel there are more people (both women and men) around my age who don’t even want kids, nor do they want to be married…. unless it’s a perfect situation that they can post on social media 🙂 .
I’ve learned that anything is possible. Just as it is possible for someone to make an error or do something bad… it is also possible for them to create a solution and do something good.
Currently in my life, I’m at a place that I’ve never been…. emotionally, financially, mentally, career-wise, professionally. It takes a lot for a man who doesn’t have a lot of support, to reach out and commit himself to supporting someone else. No matter what his bank account is. But, just like Tevin Campbell so eloquently said in one of his songs… “I’m Ready” for something special.