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Are We Moving Too Fast?

I recently starting dating a lady who has captured my heart. She is so very special to my heart, to the point that I even second-guessed writing this blog, feeling that it might place a wrench in our relationship which is currently running so smoothly. Yet, I feel there are a lot of people who would benefit from my transparency and simply seeing that two Christians can find true love in the Big Easy 🙂 … and see that is possible for God to provide someone to compliment their life, so they can have someone to love and who loves them.

Being in my mid-thirties, so many of my friends and family know that I’ve been waiting for love, or the right relationship. I’ve been trying to put myself in the right situation so that I can find someone who loves me for me, while also searching for the right lady who shares my same values and desires so that I can love her for her. And, though I’ve only known my special lady for honestly a few weeks, it seems like we’ve known each other for years, because our spirits are so closely aligned.

It is now, after finding love, that I really feel that people should wait patiently to meet the right someone, and not spend too much time dating random people just to not be alone. It’s like I enjoy our relationship so much more and I have a lot more of my heart to share, because I haven’t shared it with so many other women.

Almost all of my friends and family who’ve met her love her, and they only have one issue about our relationship. Our age difference. She’s 12 years younger than me. People are so quick to point out that I was learning Calculus while she was learning her ABC’s. But, I don’t feel our age difference matters at all, nor does she. And, that’s the end of that. People have also criticized that we are moving too fast, as we only met a few weeks ago. I am mature enough to know love can make a person blind, which has led me to ponder inside my heart and ask myself the question, are we moving too fast? 

In my heart I truly believe that we are moving fast, but is it really TOO fast? I don’t think so at all. It may seem like that to others, but really… does it really matter what other people think? Well, I can honestly say that I do care about the opinions of a few people (and they know who they are), but I could care less what most people think of me, what I do, and who I share my love with.

I really feel the lyrics in Sade’s song, Nothing Can Come Between Us… “It’s about faith… it’s about trust“. And, I know I’m not perfect, nor is she. Everywhere we go people stop and stare at us. They can see that our love is real. I really feel that the closest people to you are people who you can laugh with, and cry with, because they love you at your best and when you are at your worst. Plus, I really feel in my heart that God has blessed our relationship. There is no formula for love, all you can do is pray and have the courage to put yourself in uncomfortable positions, and you can only receive what you have to give. I pray you find whatever it is you’re looking for.

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Jason Perry

I'm a black man with Christian values. A father to my son, a friend to those who desire my friendship, a lover of life and even more...

12 Comments

  • Cori Cormier

    March 31, 2016 at 10:47 pm

    I’m happy for you! 🙂

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    • jason

      April 1, 2016 at 8:00 am

      Thanks Cori!

      Reply
  • Maya Moore

    March 31, 2016 at 11:41 pm

    I’ve been waiting for this blog! Yay!

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    • jason

      April 1, 2016 at 8:02 am

      Lol…☺ I’ve been wanting to write it, but I took my time and I wanted to really evaluate my feelings.

      Reply
  • markednmoxey

    April 1, 2016 at 6:22 am

    Really great post, and congrats. You just re-inspired me. I do feel like the “need” to be with someone so that I am not alone is diminishing. As I get older ( early thirties), it does feel a bitter disappointing at time to be single. However, I truly believe that there is someone divinely made for me. I love what you said about having more love to give because you share it with a bunch of women. I can appreciate it and respect it and totally want to embrace it– especially when the temptations and doubt and start coming. I stand for a humanly love that only God will provide when He sees fit. Gotta stay strong and wait for the good stuff– not the temporary fixes.
    Thank you for this.

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    • jason

      April 1, 2016 at 8:09 am

      Patience is a definitely a virtue when you’re praying for love. Another virtue that few people discuss is optimism. Be optimistic about finding love.

      Reply
  • Ahensimmons

    April 2, 2016 at 5:55 pm

    Yay!!! Jason!! Congratulations! I appreciate your post. Surprisingly, I am in a very similar situation where I met this guy online from Seattle by way of Nigeria and for two weeks straight we talk and Skype everyday and we have grown so close! I feel like he gets me, accepts me, loves me and my feelings are growing for him daily. We will meet face to face in less than 2 weeks. Blog post to follow! Aww, I’m so happy for you two!!! Please share more! Best of love and light 🙂

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  • lovekultureworld

    May 17, 2016 at 8:18 am

    I know this exact feeling. I met someone who after our first date I just felt like he was it. We both felt we were moving too fast, so tried to take it slow, but then just gave into it…and in less than a year we will be married.

    It’s scary, but when I think of all the other things I allowed, he certainly was worth waiting for. Congrats Jason, and hoping the best!

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    • jason

      May 17, 2016 at 9:37 am

      That’s so awesome! So happy for you 😊. Everyone moves at a different pace. When it comes to your life you better understand your pace.

      Reply
  • cafeavectwali

    November 10, 2017 at 12:42 am

    Friend, its great you found that special someone but enjoy the relationship instead of questioning it. How else will you be happy if that’s what you spend time doing? You deserve to be happy regardless! I wish you good luck 😊 – Love from Kenya
    PS: Oh & if you need some help you can check out my post “How do you know if you’ve met your soulmate?”

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  • jymdiaz

    September 20, 2018 at 11:01 pm

    Wow Jason!! I really appreciate your post, your every post. Huhu Congratulations! Thank you for sharing your writing and inspiring people. God bless!

    Reply
  • jason

    December 5, 2019 at 3:57 pm

    I now know that this relationship was futile. Though I appreciate the life of my son. Ultimately this relationship has brought me more pain than I could have ever imagined. As I have been burdened with pains
    of divorce for over a year, like an unhealed wound, and the stress of everything associated with it.

    Reply

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