“Going nowhere fast, we’ve reached the climax. We’re together, now we’re undone. Won’t commit so we choose to run away… do we separate? Oh, don’t wanna give in so we both gave up. Can’t take it back, it’s too late, we’ve reached the climax.”
Those are lyrics from a song Usher co-wrote and performed called “Climax”. As I was driving today after church, the song came on the radio (I’ve been listening to more R&B lately btw, as I long to listen to words about love, or love music in general). As I was driving, I really started paying attention to the lyrics of the song. And, the lyrics really began to paint a mental picture of a lot of my relationships.
Going nowhere fast – Sometimes I can feel so lonely even while I’m in a relationship. And, it literally feels like I’m going nowhere fast! Or, I can feel this way when I’m approaching a woman and they give me the “side eye“. It’s like so many women have been hurt by guys they’ve dated or seen it happen to their friends, to the point where they are expecting men to hurt them. So, it’s almost impossible for them to trust, or have hope. And, I can’t be with someone who has trust issues.
We’re together, now we’re undone. Won’t commit… – I can’t count how many times I had an initial attraction with a woman and we really connected, then after a few weeks/months or so our relationship just kind of dissipates. And, though I invested in the relationship and wanted it to work out for whatever reason… it wasn’t meant to be and it didn’t work out. Whether she doesn’t answer phone calls, life created a separation between us, different career choices, different values, etc.
Don’t wanna give in, so we both gave up – No relationship is perfect. I see so many people who find it so difficult to sacrifice anything for love. They feel like they don’t have to deal with O.P.P. (other people’s problems)… but then they have trouble being honest, or want other people to sacrifice for them. I feel like I’m eventually going to have to give in and fight for love, if I want to be in a committed relationship. But, she has to be worth it 🙂 .
Climax – I’m 37. Right now, though I get a little lonely now and then, for the most part my life is great. I’m making the most money I’ve ever made in my life. I’m setting goals and living my dreams. But, I also know that this time in my life is only for a season. Life is short… I don’t have all the time in the world. I don’t have time for games. I’m at the climax of my life, and I need to make the most of it.
Below are a few questions, I want to ask this to my readers who are single (men and women) and desire to be in a relationship. Please comment.
- What are you willing to do (or willing to sacrifice) for love? For example, are you willing to quit your job and move to another state, or country, to be with someone you love? Are you willing to sacrifice the relationships you have with your friends and family?
- Do you feel that you can be happy living a single life? In my case, I know I couldn’t be happy being single, and casually dating, for the rest of my life. My convictions are too high when it comes to having sex outside of marriage, because even though I’m not a horny sex freak, I do enjoy intimacy and having sex. Plus I want children… I want a family.
- Have you lost hope in finding love? A lot of people have lost hope. What can I say? It’s hard out here. All I can say is pray about it. That’s what I do.