The truths of some people’s lives have hurt them so bad, to where it’s easier for them to believe in a lie. And, they end up living their lives outside of reality, and only give invitations out to a select few for visitation. Because most people cannot handle the truth.

Here are some truths that I remember about myself that took me years to truly embrace… the fact that my personality was outgoing and though I can seem to be strong outwardly, my spirit is very sensitive to where I feel and analyze all my emotions.

As a young black man in Louisiana, who never was attracted to the sounds and ambiance of hip hop or rap music, I was already an outcast to the cultural norms that I was born into.  I honestly felt I had a special persona for my family, my church friends, my friends outside church, and people I grew up with. Only a few people actually knew the real me. I fell in love with this song when it came out (Radiohead – Creep) because I felt it was made for me. I developed these persona’s because I was afraid of being myself and not being accepted. I was afraid of the truth… which was that I was very different.

I see people driving expensive cars while not having the money to purchase clothes for their child — the truth is that they are barely making it and they are living above their means. I see marriages end in divorce for whatever reason — the truth is that we as a people don’t truly value commitment, nor value covenants/vows made under God. I see people who are overweight (those without medical issues) who feel like they were born that way — the truth is that their bodies are a product of living an unhealthy lifestyle for years with little to no consistent physical exercise. Then I see people who feel like the world is against them, and have such a negative mindset towards everything — the truth is that bad things happen to everyone, everyone has been rejected and has fell down, but not everyone gets back up… dusts themselves off and moves forward.

Though the truth hurts, it should never stop you from being positive and achieving your goals. I remember in high school when I ran track. Standing looking a 6 foot high jump pole. It looked so daunting! But, after hours, weeks, months of working out and practicing… I eventually was able to clear that 6 foot pole.

One of the most hurtful truths I have ever felt, was when I realized that my best friends, whom I actually considered my brothers from another mother… I realized that they would never love me the way I loved them. Or even if they did, they would probably never show it to me. And that is the same feeling I felt in my last relationship. I knew she would never love me the way I loved her. The truth is that I have the ability to love, because I was loved and know that I am loved… and most of my relationships will never be able to reciprocate the type of love that I have to offer.

Don’t lie to yourself, be true to yourself, understand who you truly are… you are unique, you are beautiful! The truth is that even if no one else notices you or even likes you, if you do the best that you can and pursue a relationship with God… you will receive your eternal reward in time.

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Jason Perry

I'm a black man with Christian values. A father to my son, a friend to those who desire my friendship, a lover of life and even more...


  • Stephanie

    September 8, 2014 at 12:53 am

    Another beautiful post!! I’m going through exactly this right now but being an Asian woman.

  • Lashondra Leonard

    September 17, 2014 at 7:31 pm

    This is so true. We see this everyday, people living above their means to impress other people who are in the same boat as them, but not knowing this. You made a very good point on how we stay in a society, where everything is so materialized and it makes one wonder about the true meaning of how we view ourselves.


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