There are some people who feel like dating life is so much better than married life. One of my friends told me, “Dude enjoy being single and having a girlfriend as much as you can. Man, when you’re dating, you get the benefits without the responsibility!” Though his statement does sound a little bit immature, I definitely understand where he’s coming from. I imagine when I get married I would have more responsibilities, in general, as I know my family’s happiness would come before my own.
The issue for me right now is… I’m currently in a long distance relationship (LDR) and I feel like I’m not getting any benefits, or better yet, I’m not getting the benefits I want while I’m dating. So what do I mean by benefits? … I mean the benefits of simply being in a relationship!
Just having someone to sit next and talk to when I want. That is a simple benefit I don’t have. I would love just to go to a restaurant or to be able to stay up watching a movie with her. I won’t even go into kissing and hugging! It’s like, I’m dating someone, yet I still feel lonely.
I don’t know. Well, it’s not that I don’t love and care for my girlfriend. I know that I know that I love her, I respect her, I know her worth and really want us to work. She and I, both have invested a lot into the relationship we currently have. We talk religiously everyday, and we’ve been talking everyday for over 5 months. I think about her everyday. But, as each week passes and she’s not physically in my life I am having to remind myself that I’m not crazy, because this is what a LDR is all about (I didn’t really understand all that comes with a LDR when I signed up for it). And though we’re not living together, I know my love for her is real and I feel our love is worth the wait.
The question is… how long am I willing to wait? How long is she willing to wait until our living situation changes? There is a threshold for everything. How many straws will it take to break the back of our relationship. I know I can’t live and not be happy. I won’t allow myself to live a lifestyle of unhappiness. I’ve never had an issue with loyalty or commitment. You know, I just want to feel loved, be affectionate with my girlfriend, and move forward in this relationship… is that too much to ask?
Well I do know one thing for sure, and I’ll try anything once. I’m not happy being so distant from her. I honestly don’t know how other people do LDR’s. I know that eventually I will take my happiness into my own hands, if life doesn’t deal me the right cards. What that means specifically, I don’t know. But this is my first and will be my last LDR 🙂 .