12 Everything is permissible (allowable and lawful) for me; but not all things are helpful (good for me to do). Everything is lawful for me, but I will not become the slave of anything or be brought under its power.
13 Food [is intended] for the stomach and the stomach for food, but God will finally end both and bring them to nothing. The body is not intended for sexual immorality, but [is intended] for the Lord, and the Lord [is intended] for the body [to save, sanctify, and raise it again].
Sexuality… definitely a topic of discussion that most Christians shy away from. Or, usually it is discussed with a judgmental, condemning, or ignorant spirit, and eventually dismissed. And even though a lot of what Christians may say about sexuality in relationships is actually good wisdom, sometimes it still isn’t received by a lot of young adults due to unique social-cultural lifestyle differences that makes it difficult for certain people to relate to this new generation of adults.
In relationships twenty-five years ago most adults were married with kids by their mid-twenties, and dating was done in high school and college. Homosexuality was never openly discussed, and considered by many a mental disorder. And, present-day Victoria’s Secret commercials would be considered as pornography.
Now, in the world I live in, condoms are freely given out in a lot of public high schools, and sex education is a subject. There are many girls who are pregnant before they graduate high school; many of which will end up becoming stressed out single-parents who will live their lives with no hope/intention of getting married. Even in committed relationships, there are more single adults who rather choose cohabitation over marriage, because it allows for more freedom; as more career-focused individuals would rather not be tied down, and always have their options.
Today I read a story about a 14-year old girl who was arrested for posting a video on Facebook, where a toddler performs a sex act on her [story]. It shocked me! And I’ll never forget waiting in line to use a computer at the public library in downtown Los Angeles, seeing a homeless man on the computer watching pornography!
The internet has made it possible for children to have access to anything and everything, and the world is teaching them how to manage/express their feelings after puberty, because Christians don’t like to talk about it.
Sexuality is a touchy issue. The verse I quoted earlier was I Corinthians 6:12-13. You know, I was a virgin until I was 29 years old. Even though I was a virgin technically, I was not in my heart, as I committed sexual sins since I was a teenager, as the Bible says that “… anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
So, why did I write this blog? You know, as of right now, I’m living the life of an unmarried man in a committed relationship who is fighting off sexual immoral desires, to preserve the holy sanctity of our relationship. I just wanted to encourage those who desire to live a virtuous life, and to promote celibacy to young people. Being celibate in mind and body is not easy, but it’s definitely worth it.