Thinking to myself as I was driving home, I had a revelation of something I already knew about intimate romantic relationships. Everyone knows that some people are not meant to have a relationship with some people; I’m talking about compatability. Yet, in this world of labeling and stereotyping, I feel many people have made the decision on what type of person they will even give an opportunity for consideration. In the past year, along with this year, and the year ahead, I believe maybe 7 or 8 of my friends have gotten married or are getting married. And, as my mom consistently badgers me about grandchildren, I feel my attention to search for ‘The One’ has gone up from level 3 to level 4.
Not that every female I see I’m measuring her up for a wedding dress, it’s just that I’m thinking about it more when I’m alone. And, not that I’m ready for marriage, because I don’t think anyone is really ready until it happens. It’s just something you can’t study or prepare for, you just do it.
Every man and every woman has characteristics which are unique to them, which makes them one of a kind. God made it that way. I have matured to understand I’m not going to get the perfect wife, I don’t even desire women who want things too perfect or who always act like their lives are perfect, because that lets me know that they live in a dream world. Every meaningful relationship is built upon two pillars: TIME SPENT and ENERGY. I believe I will know that I have found ‘The One’ for me, when I will feel the need to sacrifice my time and my energy just to be apart of her life, and I feel that she gives me what I feel every man needs in an intimate relationship, RESPECT and LOVE.
Some relationships are made out of a lust for money, others are made because of loneliness, and still others stem from some type of necessary reason that keeps them together (like a child). I don’t want a relationship built on anything else except for a complete love for each other. And, since that type of love isn’t built in one day… I’m staying content until I find it. Plus, I feel that finding ‘The One’, or having a successful relationship with someone is more about timing, coming together at the right time in life, rather than anything else.
I don’t want to be the person who goes into a marriage with the idea that I MIGHT get divorced. Even though there are few marriages that I know of that I would consider successful, I still have faith that my future wife and I will always try to be unselfish and work out our differences before taking any steps towards separation. But, hey, who knows what the future may hold. I can only hope and pray.
