Relationship Qualifications

What are the general qualities present in those who have the best relationships? I would obviously think that LOVE is the key to any successful relationship; however, since everyone has their own interpretations of what love is, and also their own opinion of what they deem attractive, it is reasonable to assume that we all have different qualities we look for in a girlfriend/boyfriend/spouse/life-partner/whoever… ūüôā

A couple touching nosesAs I was lying in my bed tonight I thought to myself, “I haven’t been intimate with anyone since my last relationship, which was about 6 months ago.” And, some may say that’s a long time, others may say the opposite, but what shocks me the most is that as of late I haven’t been really¬†strongly compelled to search for¬†intimacy with women; and I LOVE being around women!

I attended¬†an event the other night, where¬†I was surrounded by beautiful single women…and it¬†shocked me to see that basically everyone seemed as if they were alone, even those who came with a date.¬†It’s almost like no one wants to offend anyone or get out of their comfort zone too much, because the smallest gestures of communication between people is interpreted as such a big deal. I wished I could just scream out…”Take down the walls around your hearts!”

My short list of qualifications are.. well, other than finding her attractive, the three¬†greatest qualities I look for in a woman is genuineness, freedom to be silly¬†and have similar values about life. I feel so many women are trying to look sexy, especially in Hollywood…but, basically everyone is sexy. I honestly feel that sexy is almost a given in every relationship in Hollywood. But, should it be a necessity? One question that I would like to ask someone who’s in a great meaningful relationship is, “Did you find your partner sexy when you met them, or did they evolve into someone sexy over time, or does sexiness even matter in your relationship?”

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I’m tired of waiting for someone to love, someone to care, someone to share my life with… but it seems like I’m only attracted to those who either don’t share my same values or those who can’t reciprocate to me the amount of love I have for them. If I think about relationships too much, I’ll just get confused. I’ll end this journal blog with this quote from¬†Alfred Lord Tennyson’s poem¬†In Memoriam:27, 1850:

I hold it true, whate’er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
‘Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.

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Jason Perry

I'm a black man with Christian values. A father to my son, a friend to those who desire my friendship, a lover of life and even more...

One Comment

  • Lashondra Leonard

    September 17, 2014 at 7:47 pm

    Love is something that can’t be forced, it must be available and willing to accept.


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