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Why are you single?

To all the single professionals out there… let me ask you a few questions. It seems like most of the single people who I know that want to be in a relationship are having the same issues. Women are saying, “I can’t find a good man who can love me for me. I want a man who doesn’t just want to have sex with me!” And, men are saying, “Where are the good women? I want a women who can accept me for me… and doesn’t want to change me to become somebody I’m not.”

This past weekend I went to New Orleans to check out the Essence Festival, and I saw what seemed to be a lot of single women and men out and about. I even saw a picture of a friend on social media at the Essence Festival… she wrote as a hashtag on post  #Singleandreadytomingle :). So I know there were a lot of single professionals out there who want a relationship status change, or who at least want some love.

But, in most after parties that I saw and went to, I saw that most women came in with a group of women. They danced together and usually sat by themselves. Men also came in groups of guys, and generally never left their group and sat across the women on the other side of the lounge or bar. I saw that couples came in together and left together.

It’s like this should be a time where people meetup, and a place that facilitates interaction, yet most people would rather be to themselves… or maybe they all expected someone to just walk up and talk to them.

Though I didn’t follow everyone to their homes or hotel rooms, I can probably estimate that 90% of the single people who were out last night, didn’t make any real connections with anyone. Which leads to my first question… Why is it so hard to introduce yourself and tell someone you’re attracted to them? I know people can get a little anxiety or shy when talking to someone they find attractive, and no one wants to get rejected, but if you don’t put your heart out there how will you ever expect to meet anyone?

The second question I have is… Do you really know what you want out of a relationship, and do you feel what you want is realistic? Obviously, I know we should all be confident in ourselves, but it would be crazy for me to believe that I could win over Tyra Banks. That’s so unrealistic. Honestly, I feel that the type of woman I’m attracted to doesn’t live in Louisiana. Even though I’m open-minded, I understand that I may have to move in order to find love.

Lastly… What are you willing to sacrifice for love? Let’s say you meet the perfect guy/gal. If they lived in another state, would you be willing to try a long-distance relationship? Would you be willing to smile more? Would you be willing to live a healthier lifestyle or workout more? Or, let’s say you are very compatible with someone who doesn’t have their life all together. Would you be willing to respect someone who you normally wouldn’t respect, in order to make the relationship work? I know that no one wants to sacrifice anything. But, that is essentially what a relationship is.

Sacrifice, love, honor, respect… this is what a true relationship is all about.

I feel that there are a lot of single professionals out there who don’t want a real relationship. Women don’t want to have a family. Men don’t want to provide and be responsible. I feel a lot of single professionals just want someone to fulfill their sexual needs, be a friend when they’re lonely, and kiss and hold hands with in public. Well, I don’t know about you, but I want more than that.

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