Every once in a while when I feel lonely I download Tinder and create an account in an attempt to get some female attention. Then after a few days I usually delete it, because just looking at the app on my phone just irritates me for some reason. Anyway, a few weeks ago I went on a date with someone I matched up with on Tinder. To those who don’t know. Tinder is a dating app on your smartphone. It’s sort of like eHarmony or match.com. Dating now-a-days isn’t like it was in the old days. Just meeting someone you’re attracted to in person and going out is very rare.
Well when I scrolled over her page, I saw a young lady who smiled, which I like. She had a few images of her in various places, meaning she’s pretty well rounded. Her pictures showed her full body, meaning she was comfortable with her appearance and I shouldn’t expect to meet someone who looked totally different in person (if we did ever meet up). And, her bio on her profile basically let me know that she was intelligent and cool. So… I clicked “like”. The only thing was I would’ve never thought that she would have already clicked “like” on my page, especially since I just downloaded the app a few days prior.
So… being the gentleman I can be, I reached out to her and she replied the next day. We chatted for a bit and we eventually exchanged numbers. The next day I texted her just to see how she was doing. And, she invited me to hang out with her and her friends at a local bar. I honestly wasn’t nervous with meeting her. You know if she lied on her profile, or if she was an overweight transsexual or just some weird person, I knew that I could handle myself. Plus I was a little optimistic about getting out of the house to do anything.
The only thing that I was worried about was the fact that she was white and though I’m not obliged to dating outside my race, I still was a little nervous. Anyway, so I meet her and we smiled at each other. She introduced me to her friends and we played darts for a while at the bar. Everything seemed cool. I bought a glass of wine and we were just chilling. Then her friends stated that they were going to leave, and I was cool with leaving, but she wanted to stay so I stayed. We ended up having a very interesting conversation. I still remember her telling me about some interesting things about her career.
Then after a while of small talk, I asked her, “What about me was attractive to you?” She said, “I don’t date white men. You were tall dark and handsome. And, you seemed harmless enough.” When she said that, I smiled outwardly. But in my heart I frowned. Because in that moment I realized that all she wanted was to have a good time with me, that night. I felt like a prostitute, instead of a friend or colleague. And, I understood the true nature of our relationship… which was just physical attraction.
I ended up dropping her off at home, and I’ve never spoken to her again. It made me realize just because you are attracted to someone doesn’t mean they want what you want. And, it’s wise to understand the nature of any relationship you’re in… and I’m always learning to be realistic about my expectations. All in all, I’m happy to have went on the date just to experience it. It’s just another story to write in my journal. And, I deleted my Tinder account again btw 🙂 .