For the last few weeks I’ve been debating within myself whether or not to make the choice to love someone. I’m not talking about entering into a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship, or dating, or anything like that. I’m talking more so about allowing myself to face the implications that come along with just being around someone who you want to be with, while being unsure of her feelings towards me. It’s always has been easy for me to love, because I understand that I have the ability to trust. A lot of women have trust issues, because of past relationships, or maybe they are just confused about what they really want from someone in a relationship – because I feel a lot of girls don’t even want to be in a meaningful relationship (and vice versa w/ men).
My best friend always tells me, “Jason! You move too fast with these girls! You gotta slow it down.” And, guess what… he’s right, and I know it. Nevertheless, I also know I’m the person Elvis was singing about, when he sang the lyrics, “Wise men say, only fools rush in, but I can’t help falling in love with you”. 🙂
The thing is, I want to be in a relationship.. I want a girlfriend. Well, let me rephrase that, because honestly I feel a little too old to call any woman my girlfriend.. I am at a point in my life where I have now matured enough, so that I have learned to simply look at everyone as who they are without labeling them. And, let the love inside us, that we have for each other, decide the true nature of our relationship as we spend time together. But, you understand what I’m saying. In plain terms I’m saying, I don’t like to be labeled in a relationship without a real commitment. I feel if you’re not engaged or married, then where’s the real commitment… I don’t know, that’s just me. And, if there’s no real commitment then all you can do is expect some form of friendship or momentary intimacy.
So, how long should I wait to tell someone I really care about them? One week..two weeks..three months..? There is no right/wrong time... it’s always the right time to tell someone you’re attracted to them, or you care about them, if you mean it.
Just like it’s always the RIGHT time when something good happens, regardless if it happened on accident or it happened purposely. Why can’t that same understanding be applied to relationships… since loving others is good, it’s always the right time when someone makes an effort to love someone else. One of my friends puts it like this, “If she is attracted to you and is interested in you, then she’ll make time for you. Simple as that.” Some things just are supposed to happen naturally. And, just like it takes time for a seed to produce any fruit naturally, I believe it takes time to receive the benefits of a newly developed relationship.
So I guess, when is the right time to love? I think it’s always the right time, if you find the right person..