Love… Questioned? or Love… Embraced♥

How many have asked the question, “Will I find love?” or think of love as only an untouchable unrealistic feeling which only looms in dreams, and can only be felt when listening to R & B songs. I know I have.. I’ve asked that question and others as well, as I am still on my quest to embrace the love of my life.

Many people have said to me, “Jason, you’re just a dreamer, and what you’re looking for is only found in a perfect world..of which you don’t live in.  You just need to find you an ugly girl, and marry her.. because she’ll never leave you.”  🙂  And, it’s funny to hear it, but it’s really crazy when you hear it from some one who actually believes it.  I’m not stupid, I know that over 50% of marriages end in divorce, even for Christians.  The odds are against me, but I have a secret weapon that most people don’t know of ;-).

So, what is love, really?  What does being in love with someone really mean, or feel like?  I know everyone has their own interpretations of it… [and I’m referring to the love found in an intimate relationship].  Some may view love as just a feeling felt in the midst of passion…but when love is viewed as being a feeling, it becomes just that, a feeling.  And, feelings come and go; just as so many people find it so easy to just fall in and out of love.  Then people wonder and look at people who interpret love as a feeling, and see them fall in and out of love with various people; and it makes them question the possibility of true love, and the hope to experience true love is lost in question.  I believe there are so many people who are in this situation; where they aren’t even looking for love, but simply just searching to find the hope of the reality of love.

If you want to know what I define love as, read 1 Corinthians 13.  Because I feel that my words just don’t compare to what is already written about love, in the Bible.

One also has to understand that love is not the only key to a great intimate relationship, though I wish it was.  Nevertheless, I do believe that love is the foundation of every successful relationship.

A good question to ask yourself before having expections of being in a meaningful relationship is, ‘Am I ready for love?’  Be truthful when answering it; because it’s futile to desire something that you aren’t ready to receive.  I myself wonder.. if I did see the face of love, would I even be able to recognize her?  And, even if I did, what would I do?  Would I run from her… or would I run to her, or would I stand still and do nothing?  I’m at the point in my life where, first of all, I feel that I’m wise enough to recognize love, and second of all, I don’t take it for granted.

Right now, I’m taking some baby steps into an unknown world, just for the sake of love.  I have gotten in my boat, ventured off the shore of the single life, and cast my sail to the wind… Am I scared that I may be caught up in a storm and lose my heart?… The answer is yes.  Nonetheless, I will not allow myself to sit on the bench of life, living vicariously through the lives of others while looking at reality tv shows about being happy.  I will venture out into the unknown.. I will embrace love.