Love… Questioned? or Love… Embraced♥

How many have asked the question, “Will I find love?” or think of love as only an untouchable unrealistic feeling which only looms in dreams, and can only be felt when listening to R & B songs. I know I have.. I’ve asked that question and others as well, as I am still on my quest to embrace the love of my life.

Many people have said to me, “Jason, you’re just a dreamer, and what you’re looking for is only found in a perfect world..of which you don’t live in.  You just need to find you an ugly girl, and marry her.. because she’ll never leave you.”  🙂  And, it’s funny to hear it, but it’s really crazy when you hear it from some one who actually believes it.  I’m not stupid, I know that over 50% of marriages end in divorce, even for Christians.  The odds are against me, but I have a secret weapon that most people don’t know of ;-).

So, what is love, really?  What does being in love with someone really mean, or feel like?  I know everyone has their own interpretations of it… [and I’m referring to the love found in an intimate relationship].  Some may view love as just a feeling felt in the midst of passion…but when love is viewed as being a feeling, it becomes just that, a feeling.  And, feelings come and go; just as so many people find it so easy to just fall in and out of love.  Then people wonder and look at people who interpret love as a feeling, and see them fall in and out of love with various people; and it makes them question the possibility of true love, and the hope to experience true love is lost in question.  I believe there are so many people who are in this situation; where they aren’t even looking for love, but simply just searching to find the hope of the reality of love.

If you want to know what I define love as, read 1 Corinthians 13.  Because I feel that my words just don’t compare to what is already written about love, in the Bible.

One also has to understand that love is not the only key to a great intimate relationship, though I wish it was.  Nevertheless, I do believe that love is the foundation of every successful relationship.

A good question to ask yourself before having expections of being in a meaningful relationship is, ‘Am I ready for love?’  Be truthful when answering it; because it’s futile to desire something that you aren’t ready to receive.  I myself wonder.. if I did see the face of love, would I even be able to recognize her?  And, even if I did, what would I do?  Would I run from her… or would I run to her, or would I stand still and do nothing?  I’m at the point in my life where, first of all, I feel that I’m wise enough to recognize love, and second of all, I don’t take it for granted.

Right now, I’m taking some baby steps into an unknown world, just for the sake of love.  I have gotten in my boat, ventured off the shore of the single life, and cast my sail to the wind… Am I scared that I may be caught up in a storm and lose my heart?… The answer is yes.  Nonetheless, I will not allow myself to sit on the bench of life, living vicariously through the lives of others while looking at reality tv shows about being happy.  I will venture out into the unknown.. I will embrace love.

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Jason Perry

I'm a black man with Christian values. A father to my son, a friend to those who desire my friendship, a lover of life and even more...


  • Brandi

    May 18, 2012 at 12:09 am

    This is well written. I do believe that the truest, most pure meaning of love has been lost and is harder to recognise because is the commercialized perception of love. Thus, there are many out there looking for an idea and not a mate.

    Good luck on you journey of finding love.

    • jason

      May 18, 2012 at 1:49 am

      Thank you so much Brandi! Your words of agreement and positive encouragement really means a lot 🙂 .


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